EP.3 Mid-life Crisis

A life satisfaction survey conducted on people in 149 countries around the world by the National Bureau of Economic Research (USA) discovered that people between the ages of 39-57 years old had the least happiness in life.

When comparing the relationship between age and happiness in life using a U-shaped graph, entering middle age was the least happy period. Why is this so? Being mature adults, people at this age generally have stability and status. Nonetheless, it turns out that many of them are miserable. Middle age is the most fragile and sensitive period in life. If you can overcome this phase you can enjoy a happy life once again.

Halfway through life many people began to reflect on their past, and wonder if they have fulfilled their promise in terms of success in life, career advancement, family, relationships with a partner, and wealth. Most of the time, our lives do not go as expected. The real world is the opposite of our high expectations. And that's why people at this age are depressed, bored, or unhappy with their current status.

Seeing the success of others of the same generation can make you green with envy. Moreover, as your health and physical performance begin to decline, you are no longer in the same state you were in your early 20's, rendering you physically and mentally vulnerable.

You can become overwhelmed thinking about the past and deeply regret your situation. You may feel guilty that you did not live your life well enough. This kind of thinking is extremely dangerous because it can make you even more depressed, so much so that you might even harm yourself.

On the other hand, thinking that the first act of your life was not good enough and that there are still many things that you need to accomplish can be an important 'turning point', allowing you to resolve and adjust many things in your life to make the remaining half better. People who have moved past their mid-life crises are in the recovery part of a U-shape graph, making a comeback for a happy life.

Our advice to those facing a middle age crisis is to stay “mindful”, admitting that you have a problem, practice having a positive attitude, and learning to let go of the past. If there’s something that makes you feel stressed, unable to sleep, or feel like there is no way out, don't keep it to yourself. Turn to someone you trust to provide advice.

Open your heart to tell them about your unhappiness and consider whatever good advice they might give you. The more you keep your troubles to yourself, the greater the chance that you might break down. If you can talk to someone, your suffering could be lifted, either partly or completely. You will feel relief, because at least there is someone by your side willing to understand and support you when you are in trouble.

A midlife crisis can strike unexpectedly like a huge storm. However, if you can get past this stage you can come back stronger than ever, and from that point onward there will be nothing to be afraid of.

The storm will pass, and the sun will rise again.