in their careers or in their lives. Some 54% said they felt confused about their career choices, while another 49% thought that their income was insufficient to survive! What about you? Are you feeling the same way?
If you have been working for a while and have a certain level of experience, you may start to feel that your work is routine and unchallenging. You may be worried whether your savings are enough to make your dreams come true. Dreams like buying a house, buying a car, or getting married. You may also wonder if the person you're dating is the right one for you.
A quarter of way through life people are just beginning to long for relationships that are more than just sweet puppy love. It’s now or never! This kind of dilemma is called a quarter-life crisis as it often occurs in people who feel insecure about their work, finance, and relationships between the ages of 25 to 35.
But if you feel the same way you are not alone. In fact, you probably have many friends facing the same dilemmas, but you just haven’t noticed it! Even Adam Smiley Poswolsky, the millennial psychology expert who penned the book “The Quarter-Life Breakthrough”, admitted that he himself experienced a quarter-life crisis.
He found himself comparing his life with others around him who were successful at a young age. He began to feel envy seeing his friends happily living a good life with a good jobs while on track to becoming millionaires, while he still fumbled for a way to progress in his career.
When there is a problem, you must find a solution, rather than remain stuck with it forever. For those in the midst of a quarter-life crisis, Poswolsky advises people to first of all stop comparing themselves to others and to ask themselves what type of work is valuable to them. Because doing what you love can help build self-esteem.
We don't need to compete with anyone, but rather create differences and values in our own way. Think about your dreams and goals in life and what you really want, and start drawing your own life map. You may get lost and make mistakes. However, don’t focus merely on your mistakes. Think of them as lessons learned. Try to step out of your comfort zone and get away from hum-drum routine for the rest of your life.
To put it simply, a quarter-life crisis is about finding your own identity and your place in society, which relates to your career. Moreover, societal expectations about the ideal age for marriage and ideal incomes can make us feel even more pressured. But don’t worry, this type of crisis will not be with you for the rest of your life.
According to a study by the University of Greenwich in England, quarter-life crises only last about two years. When they are over, people will find a way to start doing something new that reflects their true values.
A quarter-life crisis is only temporary, but your determination will stay with you always. We want to send our good wishes to everyone facing a quarter-life crisis!